I am Changing My Soap Brand

I am going to share a very personal secret. Not very many people know this intimate detail about me, but today is the day. I am going to be vulnerable and share it. Are you ready? Okay, here it goes. Oh, man…I am not sure if I can do this. I am so nervous. Okay, here it goes. Ready?

I use Ivory soap when I shower.

Hahaha! Are you disappointed? Sorry, I hyped it up so much. I’ve been using the ivory soap for years. I think over 20 years…maybe even more. But I wanted to tell you this because I made a decision this morning to change brands. And I am going to tell you why, and it’s all going to make sense. Especially because this is the finale of our series, “The Relationship Factor.” Here’s a quick review of what we’ve talked about so far:

  • How important is fostering good relationships in business? Read More
  • How important is fostering good relationships in life? Read More
  • What makes a successful business relationship? Read More
  • What is a relationship return on investment (ROI)? Read More

Everything we have discussed so far is relationship marketing. The world has transformed how we communicate. Brands now especially do a better job engaging with the public, and through millions and millions of data points, they have figured out how to get their products to the people. They have figured out that in order to do that well, they have to do these three things even better.

  • They have to know their customers better than anyone. Not as consumers and data points but as people.
  • They must understand how to connect with each of them individually and deeply.
  • They have to know how to earn their trust.

And here’s the bottom line of how this can be achieved: Once you find your target market…once you figure out who they are and know them better than anyone else, it’s time to connect with them emotionally, to speak to each one individually and deeply. Once they are moved and experience how a brand made them feel, trust will be earned.

And here’s a perfect example of how this can be achieved. Please watch this 2-minute video:

Dove is redefining beauty. And their message is that beauty is for everyone. They’ve studied their market…meaning they studied the people they want to serve, and they figured out that this specific market and the future generation of this market need desperately to build a positive self-image and reduce the anxiety that comes from the toxic ideas of beauty. So, they created a “Real Beauty” campaign, ensuring the world that real beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages, and this became the central message of their campaign.


Because they realized something, they realized something fundamentally important that most marketing books failed to tell you about. We were taught that the successful market mix incorporates the four Ps. Product, Price, Place, and Promotion. But, they forgot to teach us the most important P of all. People. And Dove doubled down and decided to focus all of their efforts on the missing P. It’s brilliant, and it worked.

So, why am I changing to Dove? Because it moved me deeply. It triggered something within me that resonated with the message. Dove made me see beauty differently, and it caused me to feel something. The heartstring they pulled in me earned my trust in this very brand, even to the point where I am willing to give up my 20+ years of loyalty to my dear Ivory.

What’s marketing? It’s all about relationships. It’s about the missing P, making a connection, and helping us see beauty in a new, creative, and profound way… from human to human. That’s life, too, isn’t it?

Thanks for journeying with me through this series. I really enjoyed researching and sharing about it. Stay tuned for the introduction to the new series coming up. I can’t wait to share it with you. Until then, have a great week.


How to get Court-Side Tickets

I can count on my hands how many times I’ve been to a professional basketball game. So…less than ten if you were wondering how many fingers I have. And out of those, most of the seats were not great…in fact, some of the seats caused my nose to bleed. I have always wondered what it took to get a court-side ticket, so I can actually see the expression on Steph Curry’s face when he swishes a three-pointer and runs back for zone defense. According to my research, it costs about $1500-$2000 per ticket. Also, it varies depending on seasonality, which teams are playing, and the city you are in. So for me, I stopped dreaming about it. It’s never going to happen.


My friend called and asked, “Hey, do you want a court-side ticket for a basketball game coming up?” I didn’t care when, what time, or who was playing; my answer was a resounding YES! To make a long story short, I sat right behind the Kardashians and had a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to watch the game like every celebrity would. It was epic!

So, this scenario begs the question, why did my friend call ME out of anyone else he could call? Because of our “Relationship ROI” – Relationship Return on Investment. It’s a metaphorical term and concept that if you pour time, effort, and care into a relationship, it will gain some benefits. In fact, our friendship goes beyond the norm…and it’s not just us; both of our entire families have created so many unforgettable memories together over the last 20 years of casual and celebratory meals together, graduations, kids performances, sunsets, engaging in deep and meaningful conversation about life, belly laughs, tears…lots and lots of tears, and we even got to vacation together. They are one of our closest friends.

So then, would you say relationships are important? I am glad you said yes to that because that’s precisely what we are talking about in our series called “The Relationship Factor.” Here’s a quick review of what we’ve talked about so far:

  • How important is fostering good relationships in business? Read More
  • How important is fostering good relationships in life? Read More
  • Successful Business Partnerships Read More Read More

How does this translate to business? It’s a well-studied, researched, and analyzed knowledge that a typical customer spends 67% more after their third year of business with you. Did you get that? 67% more! Did you also know it takes five times more effort and resources to gain a new customer than to keep your current customer?

Kristina Spillane is a regional executive for global key accounts at Fidelity National Information Services, Inc. She manages key strategic accounts representing over 100 Billion dollars of assets. Her priority and goal for her and her team is cultivating long-term relationships without missing long-term benefits. It’s called loyalty, and she defines it as such:

(Authenticity + Consistency + Value) / Time = Loyalty

TIME is the critical data element because, with time, we can perfect our authenticity. With time, we become more consistent. And with time, we create better value for our customers.

Well-managed relationships are still the best currency, and relationships are like compounded interest: the greater the relationship, the longer the time, and the longer the time can equal higher value. How much more value? How about 67% more?

Do you have a relationship investment strategy? We all should, and this is a great place to start. Let’s break down some key points about what our focus should be from here on out.

  • Listen: Actively listening to your customers is crucial for understanding their needs, concerns, and preferences. It involves paying attention to their feedback, whether it’s through direct communication, surveys, or social media interactions. By listening attentively, businesses can gain valuable insights that inform product development, service improvements, and overall customer satisfaction.
  • Respond Quickly: In today’s fast-paced world, customers expect prompt responses to inquiries, concerns, or feedback. Responding promptly demonstrates that you value their time and are committed to addressing their needs efficiently. It helps build trust and fosters a positive impression of your brand.
  • Show them appreciation: Expressing gratitude to your customers goes a long way in building solid relationships. Simple gestures like thank-you notes, exclusive discounts, or personalized messages can make customers feel valued and appreciated. Showing appreciation reinforces their loyalty and encourages repeat business.
  • Provide consistent value: Consistency is critical to maintaining customer satisfaction and loyalty. Delivering high-quality products, services, and experiences consistently reinforces trust and reliability. Businesses should strive to meet or exceed customer expectations consistently to ensure long-term success.
  • Admit your mistakes and correct them: Nobody is perfect, and mistakes are inevitable in business. When errors occur, taking ownership, apologizing sincerely, and taking appropriate steps to rectify the situation are essential. Addressing mistakes promptly and making things right demonstrates integrity and a commitment to customer satisfaction.
  • Focus on responsive support: Offering responsive customer support is essential for resolving issues and addressing customer concerns effectively. Whether through phone support, live chat, email, or social media, businesses should provide timely assistance and solutions to ensure a positive customer experience.
  • Include them in your success: Celebrating successes with your customers fosters a sense of camaraderie and strengthens the bond between the business and its clientele. Whether acknowledging milestones, sharing success stories, or offering exclusive perks, involving customers in your successes makes them feel like valued partners in your journey.
  • Create community: Building a sense of community around your brand can deepen customer engagement and loyalty. Encourage interaction among customers, facilitate discussions, and create opportunities for them to connect with each other. A strong community fosters a sense of belonging and strengthens customer and brand relationships.
  • Resist the urge for instant results: Building meaningful relationships takes time and effort. Businesses should prioritize long-term relationship-building strategies over quick fixes or short-term gains. Patience and consistency are essential for cultivating customer trust and loyalty over time.
  • Believe in the value of relationships over time: Recognize that investing in customer relationships is not just about immediate returns but also long-term benefits. Building strong, enduring connections with customers can lead to increased loyalty, positive word-of-mouth referrals, and sustained business growth.
  • Reinvest energy into making customers happy: Continuously investing in customer satisfaction and happiness is essential for maintaining strong relationships. Whether through ongoing improvements, personalized experiences, or innovative solutions, businesses should consistently strive to exceed customer expectations and create positive interactions at every touchpoint.

By incorporating these key points into their relationship investment strategy, businesses can cultivate meaningful connections with their customers, foster loyalty, and drive long-term success. Most importantly, who knows, maybe they’ll call you one day with available court-side tickets. I am rooting for you.


I Need a Dancing Partner

I heard someone say, “The only time I ever need a partner is when I am dancing.” Just to put it into context, this was quoted by an entrepreneur who got burned on several business partnerships that cost him a lot of grief, stress, and most of his money. He swore that he would never go into business with someone else EVER again.

On the flip side, how about this quote? “Individually, we are one drop, but together, we are an ocean.” Or this? “In partnership lies the power to achieve what we cannot accomplish alone.”

So, from these quotes alone, a partnership’s success or failure depends on who you partner with. If you partner with the wrong person, it can turn into an absolute nightmare, but if you partner with the right person, it can lead to the most productive collaboration by leveraging the power of two or more to achieve success.

So then, would you say it’s all about relationships? I am glad you said yes to that, because that’s exactly what we are talking about through our series called “The Relationship Factor,” where I’ve been diving into the importance of relationships in our business. Here’s a quick review of what we’ve talked about so far:

  • How important is fostering good relationships in business? Read More
  • How important is fostering good relationships in life? Read More

If you are thinking about starting a new business, it’s essential that you find the right person to partner with. Don’t get me wrong; there’s nothing wrong with solopreneurs. I know brilliant and capable individuals who did it all on their own…but for me, I would rather not do it alone, and here’s why…we all have our strengths and our weaknesses, and don’t you think if we can recognize each other’s unique abilities and talents, we can leverage our combined skills to achieve greater success? Also, isn’t it just better and funner to do it together? Isn’t it better to celebrate our victories together? Isn’t it just better to share the burdens together? Isn’t it just better to divert the workload together? Isn’t it just better to dream together?

But at the same time, we need practical guidance to find the right person. Here are some that I think are essential:

  • Identifying Shared Values: When looking for a partner, it’s crucial to identify shared values. For instance, in a business partnership, if one person values integrity and the other prioritizes profit above all else, conflicts may arise. Conversely, if both partners prioritize honesty and ethical conduct, they are more likely to build a strong, trusting relationship.
  • Assessing Complementary Skills: Finding a partner with complementary skills can enhance the overall effectiveness of the partnership. For example, in a startup venture, one partner might excel at product development and innovation while the other is skilled in marketing and sales. Together, they can cover more ground and address a broader range of challenges than either could alone.
  • Testing Compatibility through Small Projects: Before committing to a long-term partnership, it can be beneficial to test compatibility through smaller projects or collaborations. This allows partners to gauge each other’s work ethic, communication style, and problem-solving approach in a low-risk environment. It may be worth exploring further if the partnership proves successful on a smaller scale.
  • Seeking Mutual Respect and Support: A good partner is someone who respects and supports you, both professionally and personally. For example, in a business partnership, if one partner consistently undermines the other’s ideas or fails to offer support during difficult times, it can erode trust and damage the relationship. Conversely, partners who celebrate each other’s successes and provide encouragement during setbacks are more likely to thrive together.
  • Open and Honest Communication: Effective communication is essential for any partnership to succeed. Partners should feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, concerns, and ideas openly and honestly. This transparency fosters trust and allows partners to address conflicts or misunderstandings before they escalate.
  • Flexibility and Adaptability: The ability to adapt to changing circumstances is crucial in any partnership. Partners should be willing to compromise, pivot when necessary, and adjust their strategies as circumstances evolve. This flexibility enables partners to navigate challenges and seize opportunities as they arise.

By considering these practical examples and principles, individuals can increase their chances of finding the right partner and building successful partnerships. How cool is that? To prove my point, numerous successful business partnerships have significantly impacted various industries.

  • Susan Wojcicki and Anne Wojcicki (23andMe): Susan Wojcicki, CEO of YouTube, and her sister Anne Wojcicki co-founded 23andMe, a personal genomics and biotechnology company. Susan provided her expertise in technology and business, while Anne, a biologist, contributed her knowledge of genetics. Together, they built 23andMe into a leading company in the field of genetic testing and personalized medicine.
  • Jen Rubio and Steph Korey (Away): Jen Rubio and Steph Korey co-founded Away, a direct-to-consumer luggage company, in 2015. Rubio, with her background in branding and marketing, teamed up with Korey, who had experience in operations and supply chain management. Their partnership led to the creation of stylish, high-quality luggage designed for modern travelers, and Away quickly became a disruptor in the travel industry.
  • Arianna Huffington and Kenneth Lerer (The Huffington Post): Arianna Huffington and Kenneth Lerer co-founded The Huffington Post in 2005, revolutionizing the landscape of online news and media. Huffington’s editorial vision and Lerer’s background in venture capital and media investment were instrumental in the success of the publication, which eventually became one of the most influential news websites in the world.
  • Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger (Berkshire Hathaway): Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger have been business partners for decades at Berkshire Hathaway, a multinational conglomerate holding company. Buffett is known for his value investing strategy and capital allocation decisions, while Munger provides insightful perspectives on business and investing. Together, they have built Berkshire Hathaway into one of history’s most successful investment vehicles.
  • Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield (Ben & Jerry’s): Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield founded Ben & Jerry’s Homemade Ice Cream in 1978, starting with a small scoop shop in Vermont. Cohen focused on business, while Greenfield oversaw product development and marketing. Their socially conscious approach to business and innovative flavors helped Ben & Jerry’s become a beloved global brand.

These examples demonstrate how successful partnerships combine complementary skills, shared values, and mutual respect to achieve amazing success in business. So, let me say it again… it’s all about relationships. I am more convinced than ever. Relationships are a testament to the endless potential that awaits when we dare to join hands and journey together. It’s a reminder that behind every monumental achievement, there’s a partnership—a duo whose unwavering commitment and unwavering belief in each other defy the odds and redefine what’s possible.

Let’s gooooooo!!!


You Have 3 Wishes

What if I were a genie who just came out of the lamp to grant you three wishes? What would you wish for? From what I gather from my own research, there are three main things that most people will want.

  • Happiness
  • Health
  • Money

Well, I might not be able to help you with the third option, but I have some insights on improving your happiness and health.

Believe it or not, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has studied this very subject—it’s the longest study of adult life that has ever been done. For 75 years, they tracked the lives of 724 people from all different social, economic, and cultural backgrounds. Year after year, they surveyed and asked each person a list of questions in their living rooms, interviewed their children, observed their marriages, studied their medical records, and even scanned their brains.

So, what have they learned? What are the lessons that came from thousands and thousands of pages of data they’ve generated on these people’s lives? Well, surprisingly, the lessons weren’t about wealth, fame, who worked harder, or who became most successful; the clearest message they got from the 75-year study is this…

Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.

From this research, they found that there are three relationships that are good for us:

  • Social connections are really good for us, and loneliness kills—those engaged with family, friends, and community are happier, they are physically healthier, and they live longer.
  • It’s not the number of connections and people you have but the quality. People who were most satisfied with their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at the age of 80
  • Good relationships not only protect our bodies, but they also protect our brains – their memories stay sharper for longer.

Great lessons, right? Well, don’t just take my word for it. Here’s the 12-minute presentation from Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, the current director of the 75-year-old study on adult development, in which he shares the important lessons learned from the study.

So, why are we talking about relationships? First of all, we are currently in the series “The Relationship Factor,” where I’ve been diving into the importance of relationships in our business. And since our personal relationships have been studied and analyzed through many studies out there, what about our business relationships? The benefits of strong social connections and relationships extend beyond personal well-being. They can positively impact work and business life in several ways:

  • Team Cohesion and Collaboration: In a work environment, having positive relationships with colleagues fosters a sense of teamwork and collaboration. Employees who feel connected to their coworkers are more likely to communicate effectively, share ideas, and work together toward common goals. This can lead to increased productivity, creativity, and innovation within the organization.
  • Employee Engagement and Satisfaction: Supportive relationships at work increase employee engagement and job satisfaction. When employees feel valued, respected, and supported by their peers and supervisors, they are more likely to be motivated, committed, and invested in their work. This can result in lower turnover rates and higher talent retention within the organization.
  • Effective Leadership: Strong interpersonal relationships are essential for effective leadership. Leaders who develop positive relationships with their team members earn trust, credibility, and loyalty, which enhances their ability to influence and inspire others. A leader fostering respect, open communication, and collaboration can create a more cohesive and high-performing team.
  • Networking and Professional Development: Building and maintaining a professional network is crucial for career growth and advancement. Positive relationships with mentors, peers, and industry contacts provide learning, mentorship, and professional development opportunities. Networking allows individuals to exchange ideas, gain new insights, and access career opportunities that may not be available through formal channels.
  • Customer Relationships and Loyalty: Strong relationships with customers are essential for building trust, loyalty, and long-term success in business. When businesses prioritize customer satisfaction and develop positive relationships with their clients, they are more likely to retain customers, generate repeat business, and benefit from positive word-of-mouth referrals. Customer relationships also provide valuable feedback and insights that can inform product development and service improvements.
  • Resilience and Adaptability: Strong social connections can provide support and resilience during times of change or adversity. Businesses that foster a culture of trust, collaboration, and teamwork are better equipped to navigate challenges, adapt to market shifts, and innovate in response to changing circumstances.
  • Work-Life Balance: Positive relationships outside work contribute to employee well-being and work-life balance. Employees who feel supported in their personal lives are more likely to be productive and engaged at work. Employers that prioritize work-life balance and support employees’ personal relationships create a more positive and sustainable work environment.

Overall, cultivating solid social connections and relationships in the workplace promotes collaboration, engagement, and satisfaction among employees, enhances leadership effectiveness, fosters customer loyalty, and contributes to businesses’ overall success and resilience. Investing in relationship-building efforts can yield significant benefits for individuals, teams, and organizations alike.

So, what do you think? Want to live happy and long? Let’s focus and pour our efforts into people and value our relationships over deals. Who knows, maybe that’s also the right formula to fulfill our wish #3…making lots of money!!


The Relationship Factor

“It’s all about relationships.” How many times have you heard this saying in reference to doing business? Well, I have heard it all of my working career, and honestly, I haven’t heard a lot of opposition to this interesting concept. But it does make me wonder: Is it really all about relationships? What does that even mean? And if so, how much of it? Is it the most important factor in business? Or is it just something nice to have, just in case?

In my past life, I worked for a large corporation for 14 years. My first ten years were as an engineer with no management roles, and the last four were as upper management with nothing but management roles. I’ve noticed that during my first ten years at the company, there was a lot of grumbling amongst the non-managers about all the money the company spends on extravagant 10-day, all-expense paid trips hosting the top 250 customers that earned the trip with their purchases. These trips weren’t just to local hotel resorts with golf, food, and shopping; we are talking about international flights to a remote destination guided by a team of travel specialists, fine dining, cocktail hours, concerts, and dressed-up events. Our company saw this as a high value and always set aside a budget to make this happen every other year. But why?

I was about to find out.

When I got promoted to management in year 11, I got to go on this very trip I used to grumble about. The first day at my new position was held at this glamorous, rooftop, outdoor restaurant overlooking the city of Rome. The sun was setting, and I was delivering a speech welcoming everyone and introducing myself to my new role. I still remember the thrill of this new adventure and being overwhelmed by the room full of decision-makers I never met. One of my mentors whispered in my ear, “you’ll need to get to know every one of these people; the relationships you build will determine the success of your career here”. Oh wow. Really?

It turns out that the time we spend together in the next ten days will create a bond that will last a lifetime. It turns out that the hilarious events we got to experience together during that trip will be talked about and laughed about together during our business calls and strategy meetings. It turns out that the relationship that was built actually affected our bottom line regarding who purchased our product vs. our competitors. It turns out that relationships did matter. Almost too much.

Don’t believe me? How about some factual insights into numerous studies that have highlighted the importance of relationships in various aspects of business?

  • Customer Relationships:
    • According to a study by Bain & Company, increasing customer retention rates by just 5% can increase profits by 25% to 95%.
    • A Salesforce survey found that 73% of customers say that one extraordinary experience with a company raises their expectations of other companies.
    • Harvard Business Review reports that acquiring a new customer can be five to 25 times more expensive than retaining an existing one.
  • Employee Relationships:
    • Gallup’s State of the American Workplace report found that close work friendships boost employee satisfaction by 50%, and people with a best friend at work are seven times more likely to engage fully in their work.
    • A study by O.C. Tanner found that 79% of employees who quit their jobs cite a lack of appreciation as a key reason for leaving.
  • Networking and Partnerships:
    • A HubSpot survey found that 85% of people say they build stronger, more meaningful relationships during in-person business meetings and conferences.
    • According to LinkedIn, 80% of professionals consider networking essential for career success, and 61% say they’ve found jobs through their professional network.
  • Supplier and Vendor Relationships:
    • A study by AT Kearney found that companies with strong supplier relationships typically outperform their competitors in key financial metrics, such as revenue growth and operating margins.
    • The Harvard Business Review reports that companies collaborating closely with suppliers can reduce costs by an average of 20%.
  • Entrepreneurial Relationships:
    • The Global Entrepreneurship Monitor (GEM) found that entrepreneurs with strong networks are more likely to start businesses that succeed and grow.
    • A study published in the Journal of Business Venturing found that entrepreneurs with solid relationships with mentors are more likely to survive and thrive in the early stages of their ventures.

While these statistics may not directly measure the importance of relationships in business, they provide valuable insights into how relationships impact business performance, including customer satisfaction, employee engagement, networking, and collaboration. Building and nurturing relationships is essential for long-term success and growth in any business context.

Do you believe me now? Well, you don’t have to yet. I am starting a new series called “The Relationship Factor.” In it, I will dig deeper into this mysterious world of business and relationships. I have a feeling it’s not going to be all sunshine and rainbows. We’ll tackle some negative impacts of relational business as well. But before I go, here’s a quote to consider this week.

“Business is all about relationships…how well you build them determines how well they make your business”. – Brad Sugars

You might be right, Mr. Brad Sugars, so let’s investigate further, shall we?


Sometimes, You Should Give to Gain

Tell me the truth, how many times have you helped your friends move? If you own a truck, I bet your number is higher than most. Have you heard this quote before? “True friends are the ones who have a truck.” If you haven’t, it’s because I just made it up. But seriously, having a friend who has a truck will double your life’s pleasure and happiness. I also just made that up. But don’t you think there’s a bit of wisdom in that? You’ll avoid so many challenging hassles of life as you will eventually find that perfect couch on the Facebook marketplace or that patio furniture someone is giving away…all you need is a truck. Let me rephrase that. All you need is a good friend with a truck.

In exchange for a day of free labor and transportation from your good friends, how about some pizza and some beer? It’s an unwritten and obvious currency exchange: (Labor + Truck) = (Pizza + Beer) = Friendship —a perfect algebraic formula.

Until…you turn my age. Have you heard this quote before? “A herniated disc is not worth the free pizza & beer.” I just made this up as well, but there’s for sure 100% truth in it. There needs to be a different type of creative “currency exchange” at my age.

There’s a give and take in most healthy friendships, and that’s just natural. Did you know there’s a give-and-take relationship in a landing page design? But before we unpack the “perfect algebraic formula,” let’s recap our Landing Page Series and what we’ve learned so far:

  • The difference between the Homepage and the Landing Page – Read it Here
  • The Hero Image and Message Design – Read it Here
  • The Stakes – Read it Here
  • The Value Proposition – Read it Here
  • The Guide – Read it Here
  • The Perfect Paragraph – Read it Here

When an audience lands on your landing page, they find you because they are looking for a solution to their current struggle. Although they found you and can obviously see that all the bullet points above on your landing page speak directly to their soul, they are just not ready to commit yet. They just met you; it’s going to take some more convincing before they decide to go on a date with you.

So, how do you further foster this relationship with someone who just landed on your page? You offer something valuable to them in exchange for something valuable to you. You need first to brainstorm what would be valuable to your audience. Here are some examples:

  • Ebook or Whitepaper: Offer a free downloadable ebook or whitepaper that provides valuable information, insights, or tips related to your industry or niche.
  • Exclusive Webinar Access: Provide access to an exclusive webinar or online workshop that covers relevant topics of interest to your target audience.
  • Discount or Coupon Code: Offer a special discount or coupon code for your products or services as a reward for subscribing to your mailing list.
  • Checklist or Resource Guide: Create a helpful checklist or resource guide that addresses a common problem or challenge in your industry.
  • Free Trial of a Software or Service: Allow users to sign up for a free trial of your software or service, giving them a hands-on experience of its features and benefits.
  • Email Course Series: Offer a series of informative and actionable email courses delivered over several days, focusing on a specific topic relevant to your audience.
  • Printable Templates or Worksheets: Provide downloadable templates or worksheets that can assist your audience in solving a particular problem or achieving a goal.
  • Access to a Private Community or Forum: Grant access to a private online community or forum where subscribers can engage with each other and your brand.
  • Free Consultation or Assessment: Offer a complimentary consultation or assessment for those who sign up, providing personalized insights or recommendations.
  • Contest or Giveaway Entry: Run a contest or giveaway and allow participants to enter by subscribing to your email list. This could involve the chance to win a product, service, or exclusive experience.

Remember, the key is to provide something of value that aligns with your audience’s interests and needs. The more enticing and relevant your giveaway, the more likely visitors will want it.

So, what do you gain in return? Their contact information. Usually, their first name and email. Why? Because in order to foster a relationship, you need their digits. You’ll need to start building a relationship. How? Start communicating together through email. Here’s a great article I wrote on why and how to do this.

I can’t tell you how many times a visitor to my landing page who opt-in/subscribed to my emails contacted me after reading my emails week after week, year after year. They enjoyed my communication, and I eventually earned their trust. This is when the plan + formula all comes together. This is when the labor + truck finally equals pizza + beer.

This concept of a give-and-take exchange is the finale of the series. This concludes all the needed elements for a packed and strategized landing page. I am a bit sad that this series is ending, but I genuinely hope you’ve learned a lot from this. I will always be here if you have any questions or even answers to this series. I would love to hear from you.

In the meantime, let’s continue to brainstorm different ideas of what we can give…not only because we are always looking to gain, but to give because we can, give because we want to, and just give because it helps others. All in all, if nothing is gained from my end, if I can confidently know that I helped someone, I consider that a gain no matter what. It’s still a win/win for me.

Thanks for learning with me through this excellent series. Stay tuned for our next series next week.


The Perfect Paragraph for your Landing Page

First, you take a deep breath. It also helps when you close your eyes. Then, internally, you say to yourself, “You are enough.” Also, remind yourself, “Don’t take it personally what others say about you. And don’t be alarmed or surprised when there’s rudeness, rejection, and yelling…remind yourself once again…I am enough”. It even helps to say these sentences out loud that Stuart Smalley taught us on SNL. “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” Ha!

Cold calling is hard.

Have you ever made a cold call? Meaning that you contact a business or general consumer you have never met to pitch your service or product. The truth is, you only have a little time. Everyone is busy and no one wants to be solicited. But, sometimes, you just have to make a cold call for your business, so let’s simplify this interesting activity that can be effective and painless. Here are some essential steps in cold calling.

Prepare for a call:

  • Take a deep breath
  • Prepare for rejection
  • Repeat, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.”

Start the call:

  • Make a human connection. Do not get into the script reading right away; try to talk to them like you just met them in line at a coffee shop.
  • Get to the point right away of why you are calling.
  • Have the perfect paragraph ready.

End the call:

  • Say thank you for your time
  • Get their contact info
  • Send them a follow-up

Why are we talking about cold calling during our landing page series? If you missed it, one of the bullet points above says, “Have a perfect paragraph ready.” The beauty of a landing page is that you get to avoid the hard steps of rejection because they come to you. But either way, you have to have the perfect pitch ready if you want to sell something. I will help you write that ideal paragraph and explain why and how it will work.

But before we get into the “Perfect Paragraph” writing, let’s go over what we’ve learned so far in our Landing Page Series:

  • The difference between the Homepage and the Landing Page – Read it Here
  • The Hero Image and Message Design – Read it Here
  • The Stakes – Read it Here
  • The Value Proposition – Read it Here
  • The Guide – Read it Here

The Perfect Paragraph, also known as the “Explanatory Paragraph,” is where you fully explain in a longer text (1-2 paragraphs) how you can genuinely help the customer. This is where you can invite your customers into a story—into a story of complete transformation. This paragraph is a story that your customer can lean into.

The Perfect Paragraph consists of 5 sections.

  • Transformation: It’s important to know that your product or service’s core purpose is to provide a transformation. This has to be clear. Help define who they are now vs. who they can be.
  • The Problem: What’s their pain? What do they want that they don’t have right now?
  • Empathy: Acknowledge and understand their pain
  • Solution: Offer how your product or service will help deal with their problem(s).
  • Action: Pave a path for them to follow to do business with you. (Try to limit to 3 steps).

Now, this is what you’ve all been waiting for. Let’s write your paragraph. (Just fill in the blanks.)

At __________________________ [your company name], we know you are the kind of people who want to be ____________________________ [what kind of person do they want to become?]. In order to be that way, you need ____________________ [as it relates to your product or services… what does your customer want?]. The problem is _______________________ [what problem is holding them back?], which makes you feel _________________ [how is that problem making them feel?]. We believe ____________________ [why is it just plain wrong that anyone should have to deal with that problem?]. We understand ____________________ [include an empathetic statement].

That’s why we ______________________ [demonstrate your competency to solve their problem]. Here’s how it works _______________________ [what’s your three-step plan: steps 1, 2 & 3] so _____________________________ [call them to action], so you can stop _________________________ [what negative thing will happen or continue to happen if they don’t order?] and start _____________________________ [what will their life look like if they do place an order?].

Here is the perfect paragraph for my own business. The bold words below are the sentences I am filling out from the blanks above.

At BOS Media Group, we know you are the kind of people who want to always help thrive and grow your business with creative ideas, the latest trends, and marketing efforts. In order to be that way, you need a team to help guide your day-to-day efforts in growth. The problem is that as an owner, you are doing and in charge of so many things you become the bottleneck, and you don’t have the energy to be creative or consistent in your marketing. We believe that as entrepreneurs, you should focus more ON your business vs IN your business. View your business from 10 thousand feet, dream out the vision, help execute the plan, and inspire your team along the way. But we understand that everyone falls into this trap, including me, and we get stuck. That’s why we are here. We know what it means to run a business and we understand how to help make it grow through marketing efforts. Here’s how it works, first, contact me directly for a free consultation, second, let us customize a marketing plan specifically for your needs that fits your budget and third, let us help execute the plan and watch your company thrive. So you can stop being exhausted and frustrated about not meeting your growth goals and start being re-energized and excited about the dreams and goals you once had for your business. 

What do you think?

Whether you are cold calling, creating a landing page, or just running a thriving business and living your best life, I think it’s crucial to have these paragraphs written out. They help refine and give more purpose to what you do. They might even give you a different perspective on how you can position your own brand and narrative. I would love to see your Perfect Paragraph. Please feel free to send it to me.

In the meantime, I hope you are enjoying the series. I am learning a lot as I teach it. So, thanks for your continuous support and love. Your comments and feedback are always so encouraging to me.


Guide or a Hero?

What do these sets of characters have in common? Din Djarin & Grogu, Samba & Rafiki, Harry Potter & Albus Dumbledore, Neo & Morpheus, and finally, Elsa/Anna & Olaf?

If you guessed, one of them is the hero of the story; the other is the guide in the story…you are absolutely right.

If you follow my content, I often talk about “the guide”! I love the idea of a guide. If you want to know more it about a K-Drama story, I wrote about it here, titled “Butler Sung.” it’ll give you a good idea of who the guide is in a story and why they exist. To quickly summarize, as we identified here, every story has a hero and guide. A guide leads the hero into their purpose and transformation.

In business, it’s crucial not to see ourselves as heroes to save the day or our clients from destruction but to see ourselves as guides to help our clients be all they can be. To help lead our clients into their purpose and transformation.

Why are we talking about a guide? Thank you for asking; it’s because we are currently on the “The Power of a Landing Page” series, where I am walking you through each section of the most powerful landing page design and content. Here’s what we’ve covered so far.

  • The difference between the Homepage and the Landing Page – Read it Here
  • The Hero Image and Message Design – Read it Here
  • The Stakes – Read it Here
  • The Value Proposition – Read it Here

And now the 5th in the series, “The Guide”. Let’s dive a bit deeper.

In the context of a story, mentorship, or even in a business role, the guide possesses several key characteristics that contribute to their ability to assist and support others. Let’s highlight a few.”

  • Empathy: A guide understands and shares the feelings of others, creating a solid emotional connection and fostering trust.
  • Wisdom: Guides possess a wealth of knowledge and experience, offering valuable insights, advice, and lessons based on their understanding.
  • Patience: Guides exhibit patience, recognizing that personal growth and development take time. They allow individuals to learn and evolve at their own pace.
  • Listening Skills: Effective guides are active listeners, paying attention to concerns, questions, and emotions, creating an open and supportive communication environment.
  • Encouragement: Guides inspire and motivate others, providing encouragement during challenging moments and fostering a positive mindset.
  • Authority: Guides exhibit authority in their guidance, establishing a sense of leadership and expertise. They provide direction and make decisions when necessary, contributing to a structured and effective mentorship.

Out of these six must-have characters, for simplicity and clarity for our visitors on our landing page, let’s pick 2. My best two are EMPATHY AND AUTHORITY.


In “The Lion King,” Simba struggles with feelings of guilt and responsibility after his father’s death, Mufasa. Rafiki recognizes Simba’s emotional turmoil, and instead of simply instructing or advising him, Rafiki uses a moment of empathy. In a scene, Rafiki guides Simba to a reflection pool and encourages him to look into the water. Simba initially sees only his reflection, but Rafiki uses the reflection to show Simba an image of Mufasa in the water. Rafiki helps Simba reconnect with his emotions and understand that Mufasa’s spirit lives within him.

This moment showcases Rafiki’s empathy by understanding Simba’s emotional state, guiding him through a reflective process, and ultimately helping him come to terms with his loss and guilt. Rafiki’s approach goes beyond providing advice; it involves a deep understanding of Simba’s emotions and a compassionate response to support his healing and growth.


In “The Matrix,” Morpheus serves as a guide and mentor to Neo. One significant moment that showcases Morpheus’s authority occurs when he offers Neo a choice between two pills – red and blue. The red pill represents a willingness to learn the truth about the Matrix, no matter how challenging. The blue pill represents the choice to remain ignorant, continuing with a false reality.

Morpheus’s authoritative presence is evident in this scene as he presents Neo with a pivotal decision that will significantly impact his understanding of the world. Morpheus’s confidence, knowledge, and conviction convey a sense of authority, guiding Neo toward self-discovery and a deeper understanding of the reality around him. The authoritative guidance sets the tone for Neo’s journey throughout the film.

Let’s put it in a simpler format for your Guide section on your Landing page.


  • Website Designing Company: We know how frustrating it is to have a great-looking website that doesn’t result in sales.
  • Cyber Security company: We know what it feels like to worry you’re not doing the right thing.


  • Fitness Coaching Service: This is why we’ve spent the last twenty years helping clients just like you get in shape
  • Mattress Company: Join the 100,00+ who have already changed how they sleep at night.
  • Tax Attorney: With our 100+ collected years of experience in the industry.

Now, it’s your turn. Please answer these questions for your company and email it back to me. I’ve been enjoying your feedback and comments on these sections.

  • What statement can you make to express your empathy regarding your customer’s struggle?
  • List some examples of your authority and why they should work with you.

The more I talk about the guide, the more I want to be the guide in my own life. Being a hero is just too stressful and so much pressure. I got to get a cape, wear a body-tight suit, stay in shape, learn to fly..etc. I will just lay low and jump in at a chance to empathize with those struggling in their journey and needing my help in what I am good at so I can speak the truth and help guide them into transformation with authority. How about you?


Dating Advice

Let’s pretend you are pursuing your love interest for a long, long time. Finally, this person agreed to have dinner with you. A real date!! So, with much excitement, you pick out your favorite fancy restaurant, Jack in the Box. Now, you have exactly 45 minutes to win this person over. What will you say? How will you say it? Of course, the atmosphere and the vibe are just right at the Jack in the Box, and you got there early to pick out the perfect table next to the window, and you even wiped it down with some loose napkins. You are all set.

Here’s the strategy.

Tell your love interest everything they will get when they fall in love with you. Will they receive quality care from you? Will this relationship help them simplify their life? Will it help them avoid the hassles of life? Will it improve their happiness a bunch? What would their new, wonderful life with you look like? You’ll need to prepare a statement summarizing the unique benefits and value you can offer. And if that statement clearly and concisely expresses why they should choose you over other alternatives in the market, you might have a chance.

Here’s a thing, a well-crafted statement addresses the specific needs and pain points of your love interest and communicates how your offering solves their problems or fulfills their desires in a way that sets it apart from competitors.

In marketing, this is called the VALUE PROPOSITION.

And yes, if you’ve been following my series “The Power of a Landing Page,” you’ll know that so far, we’ve covered:

  • The difference between the Homepage and the Landing Page – Read it Here
  • The Hero Image and Message Design – Read it Here
  • The Stakes – Read it Here

And the 4th in the series, The Value Proposition. Let’s dive a bit deeper. When you are preparing your statement, a strong value proposition typically includes the following:

  • Customer Benefits: Clearly articulates the positive outcomes or advantages customers can expect from using the product or service.
  • Differentiation: Highlights what makes the offering unique and better than alternatives available in the market.
  • Relevance: Aligns with the target audience’s needs, preferences, and challenges, demonstrating a deep understanding of their concerns.
  • Clarity: Uses simple and straightforward language to ensure that the value proposition is easily understood by the target audience.
  • Credibility: This may include supporting evidence, such as testimonials, statistics, or specific features that support the claims made in the value proposition.

So, let’s practice. Using an example of an HVAC system for your home, how about if you read this while shopping for one? “Never worry about your air conditioner breaking down. Never have to schedule maintenance again. Breathe cleaner air without having to change filters.”

  • What are the customer’s benefits? No worry, no scheduling service nonsense, and clean air.
  • What’s a differentiation? Most HVAC system requires maintenance, but this one doesn’t
  • How is it relevant? It’s summer, and your customer is busy and cares about their health.
  • Is it clear? It sounds clear to me; there are no weird technical terms or funny vocabulary. It’s simple and straightforward.
  • Is it credible? Well, you can’t tell from this example, but you can certainly include testimonials, or the strength of your brand may speak for itself.

Let’s do one more for kicks. In the spirit of love, you just created a Dating App called “Jack’s Dating App.” (Get it? Jack? As in…Jack in the Box?)

Discover meaningful connections with Jack’s Dating App, designed to celebrate authentic relationships. Unleash the power of genuine connections through our intelligent matching algorithm that goes beyond superficial traits. We prioritize compatibility, shared values, and everyday interests to connect you with like-minded individuals seeking genuine, long-lasting relationships. With a focus on fostering authentic connections, Jack’s Dating App provides a safe and inclusive space to express your true self. Say goodbye to swiping fatigue and hello to meaningful connections with Jack’s Dating App, where your journey to lasting love begins.”

In this example:

  • Customer Benefits: Meaningful connections, intelligent matching based on compatibility, shared values, common interests, and a safe and inclusive space for self-expression.
  • Differentiation: The app stands out by emphasizing a focus on genuine connections, moving beyond superficial traits, and providing a safe and inclusive environment.
  • Relevance: The value proposition addresses the needs of individuals looking for meaningful and lasting relationships, distinguishing itself from casual dating apps.
  • Clarity: The language is clear and emphasizes the app’s commitment to fostering genuine connections.
  • Credibility: The mention of an intelligent matching algorithm adds credibility to the app’s ability to connect users based on compatibility.

This example highlights how a dating app’s value proposition can focus on the unique aspects of its approach, fostering genuine connections and providing a safe space for individuals seeking meaningful relationships.

Now that you are an expert on the Value Proposition for your product or service, how about you come up with your statement and share it with me. I’ll give you some feedback. Or, if you don’t have a product or service to offer, how about a value proposition on what would say in that dim, lighted, warm, and inviting ambiance with the interior decor featuring a harmonious blend of rustic charm and modern elegance…flickering candlelight and tasteful floral arrangement you placed on the perfect table next to the window at the Jack in the Box next to the gas station near the freeway exit? Hahaha


A Bike Shop’s Example of Good Marketing

I was chit-chatting with my friend the other day about his business, and as he kept talking about all the challenges he was facing, I couldn’t help but think to myself… “oh wow, it’s really costing him to live without my products or my services.” Or better yet, a bit more dramatically…” oh wow, he can’t live without me!”

I know we were told in counseling that when someone shares their problems, they are not necessarily asking for solutions. We are to nod, acknowledge, and repeat or summarize their frustration to let them know we are listening.

But, sometimes….we just HAVE to chime in. Especially knowing that it’s costing them money, opportunities, growth, and success if they don’t listen to us. LOL.

In business, we call this scenario “The Stakes”. What are you helping your customers overcome? Or, what are you helping your customers avoid?

We are currently in the “Power of the Landing Page” series. If you missed our last conversation, we talked about the most essential part of the landing page design, the Hero Section. If you missed it, you can check it out here.

After designing your perfect Hero Image and header, you now move on to the next section, “The Stakes.” In this section, you are communicating to your customer that there’s a problem that you are facing, and if you don’t fix it, it will COST you something.

Let’s do an example of a bike shop. The bike shop owner has a store in a cool, touristy beach town, and during the peak season, the traffic gets a bit overwhelming. She hears a lot of her local residents complaining about it. Also, the town is small enough for a lot of people to walk to coffee shops and grocery stores. So, she started an idea, a movement, a campaign to bring a lot of locals interested in purchasing a bike.

On “The Stake” section of her landing page, she wrote, “Life is too short to sit in traffic.” This resonates with the locals who complained about the traffic; they were frustrated because they felt like they were wasting their precious time away from enjoying their day in their beautiful beach town.

Then, in the next line, she wrote, “Traffic is no fun, don’t be held back.” This confirmed their thought on why the traffic made them frustrated. Not having fun, which is important to the locals in a beach town, and being held back, which is what they were feeling as it being a waste of their precious time. This is the COST. 

The final line she chose was, “You were designed for more.” Whoa!! I love the word “design” here because it gives a sense that there’s a better, more creative way that was strategically created specifically for the local residents dealing with the traffic issue. The entire line also gives a positive solution of hope.

So, let’s put it all together for a perfect “The Stakes” section for this bike shop.

Traffic is no fun, don’t be held back.
You were designed for more.

Here’s the actual designed image.
I hope this gives you a better design sense when you are creating your landing page. This being the second section of the landing page creates an urgency in your message to engage your audience right away, and what better way to do that than to let them know what is COSTING them to not buy your product or to not use your services?

By the way, if you are a good student and want to read ahead on our Landing page series, these resources I am giving you have been well-researched, developed, and tested by the New York Times bestselling author and marketing guru Donald Miller in his book, Marketing Made Simple. You can purchase your book here to dive deeper and learn more about how this format has been derived and the effects it will have on your brand.

So, are you ready to design your landing page? Well, not yet…we have more sections to go over that are essential to finalizing the perfect marketing landing page. In the meantime, what is the cost of someone not doing business with you? What are you helping your customers overcome? What are you helping your customers avoid? I would love to know and help you draft your “THE STAKES” section. Send it to me.

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