Silence

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What Are You Thinking About?

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The Mental Game

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I am Changing My Soap Brand

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How to get Court-Side Tickets

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I Need a Dancing Partner

I heard someone say, “The only time I ever need a partner is when I am dancing.” Just to put it into context, this was quoted by an entrepreneur who got burned on several business partnerships that cost him a lot of grief, stress, and most of his money. He swore that he would never go into business with someone else EVER again.
On the flip side, how about this quote? “Individually, we are one drop, but together, we are an ocean.” Or this? “In partnership lies the power to achieve what we cannot accomplish alone.”
So, from these quotes alone, a partnership’s success or failure depends on who you partner with. If you partner with the wrong person, it can turn into an absolute nightmare, but if you partner with the right person, it can lead to the most productive collaboration by leveraging the power of two or more to achieve success.
So then, would you say it’s all about relationships? I am glad you said yes to that, because that’s exactly what we are talking about through our series called “The Relationship Factor,” where I’ve been diving into the importance of relationships in our business. Here’s a quick review of what we’ve talked about so far:
- How important is fostering good relationships in business? Read More
- How important is fostering good relationships in life? Read More
If you are thinking about starting a new business, it’s essential that you find the right person to partner with. Don’t get me wrong; there’s nothing wrong with solopreneurs. I know brilliant and capable individuals who did it all on their own…but for me, I would rather not do it alone, and here’s why…we all have our strengths and our weaknesses, and don’t you think if we can recognize each other’s unique abilities and talents, we can leverage our combined skills to achieve greater success? Also, isn’t it just better and funner to do it together? Isn’t it better to celebrate our victories together? Isn’t it just better to share the burdens together? Isn’t it just better to divert the workload together? Isn’t it just better to dream together?
But at the same time, we need practical guidance to find the right person. Here are some that I think are essential:
- Identifying Shared Values: When looking for a partner, it’s crucial to identify shared values. For instance, in a business partnership, if one person values integrity and the other prioritizes profit above all else, conflicts may arise. Conversely, if both partners prioritize honesty and ethical conduct, they are more likely to build a strong, trusting relationship.
- Assessing Complementary Skills: Finding a partner with complementary skills can enhance the overall effectiveness of the partnership. For example, in a startup venture, one partner might excel at product development and innovation while the other is skilled in marketing and sales. Together, they can cover more ground and address a broader range of challenges than either could alone.
- Testing Compatibility through Small Projects: Before committing to a long-term partnership, it can be beneficial to test compatibility through smaller projects or collaborations. This allows partners to gauge each other’s work ethic, communication style, and problem-solving approach in a low-risk environment. It may be worth exploring further if the partnership proves successful on a smaller scale.
- Seeking Mutual Respect and Support: A good partner is someone who respects and supports you, both professionally and personally. For example, in a business partnership, if one partner consistently undermines the other’s ideas or fails to offer support during difficult times, it can erode trust and damage the relationship. Conversely, partners who celebrate each other’s successes and provide encouragement during setbacks are more likely to thrive together.
- Open and Honest Communication: Effective communication is essential for any partnership to succeed. Partners should feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, concerns, and ideas openly and honestly. This transparency fosters trust and allows partners to address conflicts or misunderstandings before they escalate.
- Flexibility and Adaptability: The ability to adapt to changing circumstances is crucial in any partnership. Partners should be willing to compromise, pivot when necessary, and adjust their strategies as circumstances evolve. This flexibility enables partners to navigate challenges and seize opportunities as they arise.
By considering these practical examples and principles, individuals can increase their chances of finding the right partner and building successful partnerships. How cool is that? To prove my point, numerous successful business partnerships have significantly impacted various industries.
- Susan Wojcicki and Anne Wojcicki (23andMe): Susan Wojcicki, CEO of YouTube, and her sister Anne Wojcicki co-founded 23andMe, a personal genomics and biotechnology company. Susan provided her expertise in technology and business, while Anne, a biologist, contributed her knowledge of genetics. Together, they built 23andMe into a leading company in the field of genetic testing and personalized medicine.
- Jen Rubio and Steph Korey (Away): Jen Rubio and Steph Korey co-founded Away, a direct-to-consumer luggage company, in 2015. Rubio, with her background in branding and marketing, teamed up with Korey, who had experience in operations and supply chain management. Their partnership led to the creation of stylish, high-quality luggage designed for modern travelers, and Away quickly became a disruptor in the travel industry.
- Arianna Huffington and Kenneth Lerer (The Huffington Post): Arianna Huffington and Kenneth Lerer co-founded The Huffington Post in 2005, revolutionizing the landscape of online news and media. Huffington’s editorial vision and Lerer’s background in venture capital and media investment were instrumental in the success of the publication, which eventually became one of the most influential news websites in the world.
- Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger (Berkshire Hathaway): Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger have been business partners for decades at Berkshire Hathaway, a multinational conglomerate holding company. Buffett is known for his value investing strategy and capital allocation decisions, while Munger provides insightful perspectives on business and investing. Together, they have built Berkshire Hathaway into one of history’s most successful investment vehicles.
- Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield (Ben & Jerry’s): Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield founded Ben & Jerry’s Homemade Ice Cream in 1978, starting with a small scoop shop in Vermont. Cohen focused on business, while Greenfield oversaw product development and marketing. Their socially conscious approach to business and innovative flavors helped Ben & Jerry’s become a beloved global brand.
These examples demonstrate how successful partnerships combine complementary skills, shared values, and mutual respect to achieve amazing success in business. So, let me say it again… it’s all about relationships. I am more convinced than ever. Relationships are a testament to the endless potential that awaits when we dare to join hands and journey together. It’s a reminder that behind every monumental achievement, there’s a partnership—a duo whose unwavering commitment and unwavering belief in each other defy the odds and redefine what’s possible.
Let’s gooooooo!!!
You Have 3 Wishes

What if I were a genie who just came out of the lamp to grant you three wishes? What would you wish for? From what I gather from my own research, there are three main things that most people will want.
- Happiness
- Health
- Money
Well, I might not be able to help you with the third option, but I have some insights on improving your happiness and health.
Believe it or not, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has studied this very subject—it’s the longest study of adult life that has ever been done. For 75 years, they tracked the lives of 724 people from all different social, economic, and cultural backgrounds. Year after year, they surveyed and asked each person a list of questions in their living rooms, interviewed their children, observed their marriages, studied their medical records, and even scanned their brains.
So, what have they learned? What are the lessons that came from thousands and thousands of pages of data they’ve generated on these people’s lives? Well, surprisingly, the lessons weren’t about wealth, fame, who worked harder, or who became most successful; the clearest message they got from the 75-year study is this…
Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.
From this research, they found that there are three relationships that are good for us:
- Social connections are really good for us, and loneliness kills—those engaged with family, friends, and community are happier, they are physically healthier, and they live longer.
- It’s not the number of connections and people you have but the quality. People who were most satisfied with their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at the age of 80
- Good relationships not only protect our bodies, but they also protect our brains – their memories stay sharper for longer.
Great lessons, right? Well, don’t just take my word for it. Here’s the 12-minute presentation from Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, the current director of the 75-year-old study on adult development, in which he shares the important lessons learned from the study.
So, why are we talking about relationships? First of all, we are currently in the series “The Relationship Factor,” where I’ve been diving into the importance of relationships in our business. And since our personal relationships have been studied and analyzed through many studies out there, what about our business relationships? The benefits of strong social connections and relationships extend beyond personal well-being. They can positively impact work and business life in several ways:
- Team Cohesion and Collaboration: In a work environment, having positive relationships with colleagues fosters a sense of teamwork and collaboration. Employees who feel connected to their coworkers are more likely to communicate effectively, share ideas, and work together toward common goals. This can lead to increased productivity, creativity, and innovation within the organization.
- Employee Engagement and Satisfaction: Supportive relationships at work increase employee engagement and job satisfaction. When employees feel valued, respected, and supported by their peers and supervisors, they are more likely to be motivated, committed, and invested in their work. This can result in lower turnover rates and higher talent retention within the organization.
- Effective Leadership: Strong interpersonal relationships are essential for effective leadership. Leaders who develop positive relationships with their team members earn trust, credibility, and loyalty, which enhances their ability to influence and inspire others. A leader fostering respect, open communication, and collaboration can create a more cohesive and high-performing team.
- Networking and Professional Development: Building and maintaining a professional network is crucial for career growth and advancement. Positive relationships with mentors, peers, and industry contacts provide learning, mentorship, and professional development opportunities. Networking allows individuals to exchange ideas, gain new insights, and access career opportunities that may not be available through formal channels.
- Customer Relationships and Loyalty: Strong relationships with customers are essential for building trust, loyalty, and long-term success in business. When businesses prioritize customer satisfaction and develop positive relationships with their clients, they are more likely to retain customers, generate repeat business, and benefit from positive word-of-mouth referrals. Customer relationships also provide valuable feedback and insights that can inform product development and service improvements.
- Resilience and Adaptability: Strong social connections can provide support and resilience during times of change or adversity. Businesses that foster a culture of trust, collaboration, and teamwork are better equipped to navigate challenges, adapt to market shifts, and innovate in response to changing circumstances.
- Work-Life Balance: Positive relationships outside work contribute to employee well-being and work-life balance. Employees who feel supported in their personal lives are more likely to be productive and engaged at work. Employers that prioritize work-life balance and support employees’ personal relationships create a more positive and sustainable work environment.
Overall, cultivating solid social connections and relationships in the workplace promotes collaboration, engagement, and satisfaction among employees, enhances leadership effectiveness, fosters customer loyalty, and contributes to businesses’ overall success and resilience. Investing in relationship-building efforts can yield significant benefits for individuals, teams, and organizations alike.
So, what do you think? Want to live happy and long? Let’s focus and pour our efforts into people and value our relationships over deals. Who knows, maybe that’s also the right formula to fulfill our wish #3…making lots of money!!
The Relationship Factor

“It’s all about relationships.” How many times have you heard this saying in reference to doing business? Well, I have heard it all of my working career, and honestly, I haven’t heard a lot of opposition to this interesting concept. But it does make me wonder: Is it really all about relationships? What does that even mean? And if so, how much of it? Is it the most important factor in business? Or is it just something nice to have, just in case?
In my past life, I worked for a large corporation for 14 years. My first ten years were as an engineer with no management roles, and the last four were as upper management with nothing but management roles. I’ve noticed that during my first ten years at the company, there was a lot of grumbling amongst the non-managers about all the money the company spends on extravagant 10-day, all-expense paid trips hosting the top 250 customers that earned the trip with their purchases. These trips weren’t just to local hotel resorts with golf, food, and shopping; we are talking about international flights to a remote destination guided by a team of travel specialists, fine dining, cocktail hours, concerts, and dressed-up events. Our company saw this as a high value and always set aside a budget to make this happen every other year. But why?
I was about to find out.
When I got promoted to management in year 11, I got to go on this very trip I used to grumble about. The first day at my new position was held at this glamorous, rooftop, outdoor restaurant overlooking the city of Rome. The sun was setting, and I was delivering a speech welcoming everyone and introducing myself to my new role. I still remember the thrill of this new adventure and being overwhelmed by the room full of decision-makers I never met. One of my mentors whispered in my ear, “you’ll need to get to know every one of these people; the relationships you build will determine the success of your career here”. Oh wow. Really?
It turns out that the time we spend together in the next ten days will create a bond that will last a lifetime. It turns out that the hilarious events we got to experience together during that trip will be talked about and laughed about together during our business calls and strategy meetings. It turns out that the relationship that was built actually affected our bottom line regarding who purchased our product vs. our competitors. It turns out that relationships did matter. Almost too much.
Don’t believe me? How about some factual insights into numerous studies that have highlighted the importance of relationships in various aspects of business?
- Customer Relationships:
- According to a study by Bain & Company, increasing customer retention rates by just 5% can increase profits by 25% to 95%.
- A Salesforce survey found that 73% of customers say that one extraordinary experience with a company raises their expectations of other companies.
- Harvard Business Review reports that acquiring a new customer can be five to 25 times more expensive than retaining an existing one.
- Employee Relationships:
- Gallup’s State of the American Workplace report found that close work friendships boost employee satisfaction by 50%, and people with a best friend at work are seven times more likely to engage fully in their work.
- A study by O.C. Tanner found that 79% of employees who quit their jobs cite a lack of appreciation as a key reason for leaving.
- Networking and Partnerships:
- A HubSpot survey found that 85% of people say they build stronger, more meaningful relationships during in-person business meetings and conferences.
- According to LinkedIn, 80% of professionals consider networking essential for career success, and 61% say they’ve found jobs through their professional network.
- Supplier and Vendor Relationships:
- A study by AT Kearney found that companies with strong supplier relationships typically outperform their competitors in key financial metrics, such as revenue growth and operating margins.
- The Harvard Business Review reports that companies collaborating closely with suppliers can reduce costs by an average of 20%.
- Entrepreneurial Relationships:
- The Global Entrepreneurship Monitor (GEM) found that entrepreneurs with strong networks are more likely to start businesses that succeed and grow.
- A study published in the Journal of Business Venturing found that entrepreneurs with solid relationships with mentors are more likely to survive and thrive in the early stages of their ventures.
While these statistics may not directly measure the importance of relationships in business, they provide valuable insights into how relationships impact business performance, including customer satisfaction, employee engagement, networking, and collaboration. Building and nurturing relationships is essential for long-term success and growth in any business context.
Do you believe me now? Well, you don’t have to yet. I am starting a new series called “The Relationship Factor.” In it, I will dig deeper into this mysterious world of business and relationships. I have a feeling it’s not going to be all sunshine and rainbows. We’ll tackle some negative impacts of relational business as well. But before I go, here’s a quote to consider this week.
“Business is all about relationships…how well you build them determines how well they make your business”. – Brad Sugars
You might be right, Mr. Brad Sugars, so let’s investigate further, shall we?
The Secret of Life

My sister subscribes to my content and she reads them from time to time. I don’t think she reads all of them though. I test her sometimes by writing about things she might find interesting and sometimes she would reply with a comment. Let’s see if she reads this one. I’ll let you know.
So, this is it. I am going to stop talking about it. This will be my last effort in writing about “Goal Setting” for the year. I had a great time doing the research and I learned a ton. I hope you did too. If you need a recap, here’s a summary and links for your reference:
- Goals? What Goals?: This is about why our brain works against us when we want to change and grow because when things are familiar and consistent, your brain feels safe and doesn’t want change. How do you fight this?
- My Lame Unfinished Journal Collection: We don’t achieve the goals we set because we don’t seek help. But there are different types of help we need depending on what type of tendencies we have when it comes to setting goals. Figure out which one you are.
- Can We Change Who We Are?: Can we truly fundamentally change? Even if we fulfilled our goals, would that now make us a different person? Aren’t goals supposed to change you? What’s the point? Find out more.
- Why is it So Hard to Take Action? There are 4 things we can control that are intertwined and can determine our destiny and change. But there are 2 out of the 4 that are constantly in conflict. But if we learn how to control it, we can make some incredible progress. I am being vague but you have to read it to find out. It’s fascinating.
So, back to my sister. She’s a freak. An organization freak. A neat freak. A clean freak. She’s probably one of the most disciplined people I know and she’s just always been that way ever since I can remember. The other day, I was at her house and I noticed that my nails were pretty long. So, what’s a better place to clip your nails than at someone else’s house? I asked her where her nail clippers were and she quickly answered, “Upstairs, hall bath, top right drawer, left side, in the back”. When I opened up the drawer, I almost fainted. There was a clear plastic drawer organizer thingy with tons of dividers and on the left side – in the back was a section just the right size for a nail clipper and that very nail clipper was neatly placed in its place. How freaky. I thought.
Anyway, I didn’t think much of it but after goofing around for a while, I needed the nail clippers again, I looked around to see where I left it last and couldn’t find it anymore. “Hey sis, where did the nail clippers go that I just used?” She replied, “Upstairs, hall bath, top right drawer, left side, in the back”. Oh, what? She put it back already. So freaky.
What’s my point? There’s a tremendous focus, process, and place for this ONE THING. And she nailed it. (Get it? Nailed it).
My sister is also a minimalist and her closet is immaculate as you can imagine. I asked her how she keeps it so nice and tidy without letting it get out of control. She said it was easy. When you buy a new shirt, you hang it and you pick out a shirt to donate or give away. If you get one, you have to get rid of one. What an amazing concept. You get ONE, and you have to get rid of ONE.
Why am I capitalizing and bolding the word “ONE”? Because ONE is the final secret I want to share in your Goal Setting.
Focusing on just ONE thing to achieve your goals is often aligned with the philosophy of prioritization and concentration. The idea is rooted in the belief that by concentrating your efforts on a single, significant task or goal, you can maximize your efficiency and effectiveness.
This concept is popularized by the “One Thing” philosophy, as emphasized in the book “The ONE Thing” by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan. And yes, I read this book and he confirmed what my sister was doing was correct. If you want that ONE thing, you have to give up that other thing.
The philosophy suggests that by identifying and dedicating your energy to the most crucial task or goal, you can achieve better results than if you were to spread your efforts across multiple tasks. It involves recognizing your priorities, eliminating distractions, and dedicating significant time and focus to the most impactful activity. Like her nailing her nail clipper organization.
The benefits of focusing on one thing include increased productivity, improved quality of work, and a better chance of achieving meaningful and long-term success. It also helps prevent burnout and reduces the feeling of being overwhelmed by a multitude of tasks.
But more importantly, I’ll let you hear it from the real philosopher himself.
It’s the ONE thing. It’s the secret of life and it’s something you have to figure out. So, my final thought on this series is this, pick a goal, just one goal. Pick something meaningful that you know will impact your life and the lives around you. And focus on that ONE thing, all year. Just one. That’s it.
I am looking forward to celebrating the achievement of that ONE thing at the end of the year with you. Share with me if you want, I am curious and I want to cheer you on all year long. You can do it. It’s just one and it will change everything. I promise.
Why Is It So Hard To Take Action?

I had an inspiration board long time ago. I cut out pictures from the magazine of dudes with certain physical characteristics. What did they look like? I am so glad you asked. They had low body fat and well-sculpted muscle definition. Especially around the stomach area. Let’s call it a six-pack. I would describe them as having a lean and chiseled body type with athletic appearance. Kind of like…like…what I am not. Ha!
So, why the inspiration board? Because I was taught that for me to reach my goals, I would have to visualize it. I was also taught that to take action, it would help to be inspired. And to be inspired, I need an inspiration board. So, there it was. And I looked at the board often and unfortunately, that’s about the only thing I did to achieve my goals of becoming a beautiful physical specimen of a human.
Where did I go wrong? I had all these dreams and ideas and things that I wanted to do and be. I tried and tried and tried but I just couldn’t get myself to take action. Even with the inspiration board. Why?
Here’s an answer that I think we all should know. This is something that most people in cognitive thought work like Psychology, Coaching and Counseling pretty much agree on.
There are 2 things in the world. Things we can control and things we cannot control. We cannot control people, we cannot control our past, we cannot control what happens out there in the world..let’s call those our circumstances. We cannot control our circumstances. So, what’s in our control? There are 4 things we CAN control that are intertwined and it can determine our destiny.
- Feelings
- Thoughts
- Action
- Results
And here’s the formula. Thoughts leads to Feelings, Feelings leads to Action, which leads to Results.
Our thoughts create our feelings. Do you agree with that? Our feelings are so important because they drive all our actions. They are the fuel for our actions. So, when you ask a question, why am I not taking action? It’s because of the way I feel. Or why am I taking an action I don’t want to be taking? It’s because of the way I feel. So, my feelings are driving my actions. And then, of course, my actions are always going to create the results I want in my life, or I don’t want in my life. My actions create my results.
I had to think about this for a while and really try to understand if my thoughts really lead to my feelings. I think this to be true for me. Then, does that mean, what I think is the most important component to my transformation? Whoa!!
What we decide to think is in our control. But, changing the way we think about ourselves is the most difficult task to overcome. We have over 60 thousand thoughts per day. I stopped counting my thoughts at nine. Who’s supervising my thoughts? Who’s paying attention to those thoughts? What narrative they are creating about me? For me, it’s mostly a false narrative. And if those thoughts are leading to my feelings, which leads me to action…what type of results am I getting?
Oh wow, hard works starts deep within. It’s going to take a lot more than just cutting out pics out of a magazine and displaying them on a cork board. It’s going to take work; it’s going to take compassion on myself and it’s going to take lot of discomfort to step out of my typical thought patterns and reprogram to who I was meant to be.
Where did I go wrong with the inspiration board? When I woke up to go to the gym to work out, I felt apathetic, I felt no drive…because I was telling myself that it didn’t matter anyway, that no matter how hard I worked out, I am never going to look like those guys anyways. My thoughts lead to my feelings which led to inaction which led to no result.
Hello? Can anyone relate?
New year, new me? How about same me with different thoughts of who I am. Internal work of listening to the negative voices in my head and changing them to true voices of courage, believing that I can because that’s just who I am. Let’s work!
Let me know your thoughts on this. Not only that, let me know your feelings on this as well. Hahah! Are we ready to grow together? Let’s gooooooo!!!!